For Carrie & Liz

I've been promising them a post so here it is...I wound up going out with the lawyer from my last posting. (the one who I met a year 1/2 ago) We met for drinks the last week of October. It was a last minute thing so I suggested we meet at 7. He said how about 6:45? I thought to myslef ok that's weird that 15 min matters to him, but whatever. He was cute and we had a good time. We wound up going to a second bar, he kissed me, it was good. After a few hours it was time for me to go home. He sent me a text telling me he had a good time. I said I did too. Then he sent me a text asking me to send him a pic of me in my Halloween costume and I joked and said he'd have to work harder for that. The Friday before Halloween (so a few days later) he asked me at 5:00 what I was doing that night and I told him I was going to pilates. He told me to skip so around 8:30 I wrote to him (I didn't really go to pilates, but I wasn't hanging out with him on such short notice) and I said I just got done. He told me to meet him in his neighborhood for drinks. I wrote back and said I had to shower and eat. He wrote back and said he could bring a bottle of wine to my apt. WHAT? We hung out one night for a few drinks and he thinks I'm going to invite him to my apt AND if a girl you're interested in says she has to eat then wouldn't you be like oh let's grab some food. So I was like this guy is after one thing and I'm NOT that kind of girl. I just got out of a purely physical situation with old man and I'm def looking for more. Anyway I didn't write him back and then on Sat around 6 he wrote meet up later?? It was the Halloween party night and I was like no way am I meeting up with him wasted and dressed like a slutty mad hatter. I didn't text him back. At midnight he called my cell phone. Of course I didn't answer and he didn't leave a message. The next morning he sent me a text around 11 asking if I had a fun night. I wrote back later that night saying really fun. I was annoyed and ready to forget him. Maybe Wed of that week I was talking to Cheri and she was like guys are dumb, he's in lust with you, give him the benefit of the doubt. So fine! I sent him an e-mail on Thurs suggesting we get lunch on Sat. He said that sounded good so I told him I'd text him Sat morning when I got up. Sat around 10 I sent him a text asking if he wanted to meet for lunch in his neighborhood (Soho) at 1. At 11:30 I had just gotten out of the shower and he sends me a text saying how about noon. Ummmm hello that's in 30 minutes and Soho is def 30 min from my apt. I wrote him back and said i just got out of the shower and wouldn't make it there before 1. He wrote ok I've been up since 6 so I'm going to eat something, drinks at 1:00? WTF there are so many things wrong with this interaction. 1) if you woke up at 6 then wouldn't you have breakfast if you knew you were going to have lunch with someone. 2) if the girl you want to meet (who has very long thick hair which takes a ridiculously long time to dry) had just gotten out of the shower and you suggest drinks at 1:00 at a place 30 min away when do you expect her to eat?? I wrote him back and said no thanks to drinks and I'd text him later knowing that I really wouldn't. He sent me another text later in the afternoon telling me to meet him for a drink. How about dinner a-hole?! So my impression of him is that he has to be in control (i like guys who take control, but not ones who exert control with stupid things like time), he does not know how to court a girl (even if he's just trying to get in my pants he could at least pretend that's not all he's after and he might have a weird relationship with food. So I told him I had dinner plans and couldn't meet him for a drink. Wed of that week he sent me an e-mail telling me how he had worked until 2am the past two nights and asking how my week was going. That was another thing...he's a lawyer so i get that he's prob very busy, but we all are. He used that as an excuse for why he couldn't make plans in advance. Give me a break! So my response to his e-mail was that sucks! My week is going well and how I had plans every night that week (which was last week and it was true). I didn't ask him any questions or give him anything to really respond to. So he didn't respond. I thought he'd get the hint and I wouldn't hear from him again. That was not the case. I just got a text from him today asking if I was around this weekend. I have yet to respond. I would love to hear what you guys think. Part of me wants to write to him and tell him he needs to get his act together if he actually wants to date someone. Any girl worth dating wouldn't put up with this kind of behavior. Another part of me says ignore him and move on and a tiny tiny part of me wonders if I'm being too harsh and see what he wants.

Ok so the latest guy is a co-worker of my friend. He requested her to set us up and he doesn't seem like anyone I've gone out with before so this could either be really good or not. I told her to give him my e-mail address which she did last Friday. He told her he would e-mail me mid-week b/c it would take him that long to draft something worthy of me. i thought that was cute. So he e-mailed me this week and it made me smile. He seems genuinely interested in getting to know me. Asked me questions was engaging over e-mail. Our plan is to see how Monday goes at work for me (since last week was awful) and if I can then we'll meet for drinks. If Monday turns out to be another nightmare then we'll go out after Thanksgiving. He asked where I worked or lived so he could suggest places to go. Love a guy who takes initiative and is thoughtful. It's such a refreshing change from the guys I've gone out with lately. For example, the guy I met at the golf outing I would have gone out with again b/c I thought he was really good looking, but when we were on our date he would ask me a question and as I was answering it he would stop paying attention. It was definitely a red flag, but at the time I was trying not to be nit-picky. Then there's old man. Looking back we had many conversations, but they were always superficial. I always felt like he didn't know the real me. This is ironic since he didn't want to be with me yet he didn't even who I was. Whatever he didn't/doesn't deserve to know me. :)

So that's the state of the union. Golf outing guy-done. Lawyer guy from past-essentially done. Friend's co-worker-TBD